Dating multiple people at


18-Sep-2017 19:22

Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.

Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.

The confusion of first-dates was disappearing altogether. I hadn’t even thought that having fun could be a part of online dating but as I grew more comfortable, I had more fun.

I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.

For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .

I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.

As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.

Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.

She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.